Seperation anxiety and stranger anxiety are normal parts of a child's development. I know this. Emerson's kicked in around 6 months- right on cue according to the "books". However, according to the "books" it should have gone away and then come back at 9mo, 12mo, 15mo and so on...Emerson's has not gone away. In fact it has gotten worse.
If you were a fly on the wall of our house, you would never know it. She is bubbly, silly, chatty- basically a typical toddler. However, you bring someone new into the mix or you put us outside of the home and she freezes- no smiling, no talking, clinging to my leg and often in tears. In fact when I went to the doctor last week to get a steroid shot from a sinus infection, she screamed and literally clawed at me the entire time. No one even touched her. She was in my arms the entire time.
I just don't understand. It has been really difficult to me to see other kids happy and interactive and then to see Emerson in such a state. It is hard not to think that I have done something wrong to cause this. Many times I have thought that it is because we are not out enough- she is not in Gymboree, she is not in mothers-day-out, etc. We do plenty of things though. We are in a music class and she goes to the church nursery (for as long as they can handle her). We have play dates and go shopping. So, we are certainly not hermits.
I want her to enjoy kids and fun activities, not be terrified of them. I want her to venture out, not cling to me. In fact, I truly think that this is an underlying issue in her not walking. Anyways, in the past few days I am coming to grips with the fact, that it is not me or our schedule, it is just her personality. She is just shy.
It is really hard for me to relate though. It is hard for me to not get frustrated with her because I am not shy and I don't understand her feelings or what she is going through. I know I need to be sensitive to her while at the same time encouraging her to try new things and venture out, but I am not sure how to balance that fine line.
Here is proof that we do stuff. These are pics from a playdate last week.
Emy and Rylie (yes, Ry is wearing a bathing suit)
The gang- Emy, Ry, Hayden and Makenna
Have a great week.